Self Confidence

#OOTN | Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone

Recently I was challenged by Dia&Co, a curated shopping experience that’s exclusively in sizes 14+, to step out of my comfort zone and try something new with my style. Every Friday in their office they celebrate Try-day which is a day where they challenge each other to step out of the box and try something new. Because of their challenge I was also able to participate in Try-day, and I must say it was a good day!

Stepping out of your comfort zone can seem like such a task, especially when it comes to wearing different styles of clothing. With my small shopping problem (depending who you ask) I’ve acquired a bit of clothing that I’ve never worn because I didn’t feel confident in them. Crop tops, dresses, high heel shoes and shorts galore – this behavior has to be put to an end. To get a jump start on this I created an outfit with this super cute black and white off the shoulder crop top that I’ve had for over a year and never worn. I would always take it out as an option when getting ready for a night on the town but I’d punk out and decide to wear something more “comfortable”. Comfortable meaning something I’ve worn several times and I know it would look good on me. This mindset has really hindered me from stepping outside of the box and trying something different with my look. Wearing this top is just a small step because I wear a lot of off the shoulder tops but a crop top that highlights some of my insecurities.. no it hasn’t happened.


I’m getting out of my negative head space by doing what feels right and what looks good.

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Outfit details:

Crop Top | Forever 21 Plus | $5

High Waisted Cropped Jeans | Gap

Faux Leather Jacket | New York & Company

Ella Lace Up Sandal | New Direction | $50

So don’t be like me and hoard clothes you’ll never wear in your closet. Try something new and rock. it.




Love Yourz

“No such thing as a life that’s better than yours. No such thing, no such thing.”

It is so easy to lose yourself in a society where social media is constantly telling us who we should strive to be while also reminding us that we are simply not there yet. Often times we let others set the precedent for our lives just so we can feel accepted in the world whether it’s on twitter, instagram, facebook or in real life. Understanding that likes and comments are just likes and comments can save you a world of trouble. Take these quotes from Love Yourz by J. Cole for example:

“It’s beauty in the struggle, ugliness in the success. Hear my words or listen to my signal of distress. I grew up in the city and sometimes we had less, compared to some friends down the block man we were blessed!”

Looking from the outside in you can easily become envious or sad when in reality you don’t know what is going on in other peoples lives. They could be dressed in the finest clothing while having low self esteem and a poor outlook on life. Dwelling on what you do and don’t have can hinder your growth as a person because you’re spending so much time on the bad in your life when there is so much good. I know that this will sound cliche but it needs to be said. Love yourself! – don’t let your followers, friends and family tell you that you aren’t enough.

“ ain’t ever gone be happy till you love yours”

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